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When A Loving Heart Breaks

cowper Titania sleeps
To a wounded angel.

Youre so brave, so strong, so beautiful,

and you can fly so high…

Im so often in awe of you, did you know that?

And please believe me when I tell you

that I cherish you every bit as much

when youre stooping

as when you soar…

And right now, crumpled to the ground,

with your wings folded down around you,

I think I love you even more…

Everything happens for a reason,

good people have told you,

and youve done your very best to believe them.

This philosophy offers such comfort and peace.

And in retrospect, when looking back upon my own life,

for the most part, it rings true.

So much that was painful or disappointing

later proved to serve me.

And I know with all of my heart

that your own pain, one distant day, may serve you.

But I cant offer up that everything happens for a reason to you.

My throat closes around those words the moment they occur to me,

and bitterness rises up to meet them.

How can there possibly be a reason for innocent children

to be tortured physically, sexually, emotionally or spiritually?

Whats the reason for the breaking of a tender heart?

The reward for the shattering of a soul?

There is no reason that I can accept,

and Ive long since given up my quest to acquire one.

I refuse to promise that the agony that you suffer now

will surely compensate you later,

and that youll be the better for it.

As a therapist, Ive looked into too many pain filled eyes.

Eyes that reflect such grief, such regret, such sorrow

Eyes that ask WHY? WHY? WHY?

And you know what?

There never was a why that I found acceptable.

Not a single explanation that was ever good enough for me.

And so my weary angel,

I come to you emptied of answers.

I cant take away your WHY

and replace it with an explanation.

I wish I could.

I want so very much to take your pain away.

Although I cannot take away,

I come to you with a modest offering.

One so small, that Im humbled as I hold it out to you.

Its a small stone with one word engraved upon its surface.

The word is AND.

You were hurt so very badly

AND yet in spite of the hurt, youve grown.

You were deeply wounded

AND still you survived.

You were exposed to the worst in human behavior

AND yet youve always tried to give your best.

Your voice was silenced

AND still youve heard and responded to the pain of others.

You were touched by evil

AND youve chosen to embrace goodness.

You were betrayed

AND still you seek to trust.

Youve been vulnerable and exposed

AND still youve sheltered lost souls with your wings.

Your agony cant be denied,

but neither, my precious sister,

can all of the ANDs that are contained within you.

They too have shaped you,

and even as your pain has left you grounded,

the ANDs will surely make up the magic

that will lead you once again to fly.

Take them with you…

Tammie Fowles

http://sageplace.com/

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What Can Offer You More Money, Power, Freedom, Greater Health and Can Help Save the World? Ask Roger Doiron.

In a funny, thought provoking, (sometimes scary) and inspiring TED talk of less than 20 minutes, Roger Doiron (one of Maines own) shares how growing our own gardens can improve our health and well-being, increase our wealth, power and freedom, and help save the world. Here are just three of the many facts that Doiron shares during his talk:

Around the world both Hunger AND obesity is on the rise

To keep up with our expanding population, more food will need to be grown over the next fifty years than has been produced thus far during the past 10,000 years COMBINED and we will need to produce this food with LESS less oil, water, soil, climate stability and time.

Our yards need not simply be yards, they can truly be full service green grocers!

You might want to visit Doirons wonderful site, Kitchen Gardners International: A Global Community Cultivating Change where youll find information, community, recipes, resources and more.

Heres just a very small taste of what this website can offer you:

How to plant a garden in the snow
How to give Eco-friendly and budget-friendly gifts
How to connect with and learn from other gardners in your community and around the world
How new low tech technology can assist in growing food in arid environments

Disclaimer: I do not personally know or have ever had contact with Roger Doiron. I simply believe in his work and want to promote it. I firmly believe in the healing power of both nature and community, healthy eating, and living sustainably, consciously, and responsibly.

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A Question to Ask When Your Life Hurts

When we encounter times in our lives that disorient us, frighten us, or wound us, we generally view them as unwelcome interruptions or unfortunate detours that have been inflicted by some outside force, or are the result of our own misguided actions. Seldom do we recognize that the discomfort that we’re experiencing may in fact be originating from a very deep and wise place inside of ourselves that is calling to us. Calling for us to stop and to listen, to explore the meaning and purpose of our lives, and to assess whether our actions and choices reflect what is best for us and in us. A voice that calls us to answer the question, “is the path that I am on now one that will constrict or enlarge me, hollow me out or deepen me, distract me or teach me, harm me or heal me?

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Getting Through Painful Times With Positive Psychology

During this journey through my mothers lung cancer I am relying heavily on the concepts of positive psychology to help us get through. In Happiness: Lessons From a New Science, Richard Layard wrote, cultivate the sense of awe and wonder, savour the things of today; and look about you with the same interest as if you were watching a movie or taking a photo. Engage with the world and with the people around you. In one sense, as Leo Tolstoy said, the most important person in the world is the one in front of you now.
We leave before sunrise each week day morning to make it for moms radiation treatment on time. Yesterday, while pulling out of the drive way I noticed how incredibly beautiful the full moon looked hanging in the pre dawn sky. I pointed it out to my mother and we stopped the car and savoured it. Within a few moments I began to feel my breathing deepen and my body relax as I allowed myself to drift toward the pull of the moon. We hadnt needed to venture into the wilderness, or even stroll through a park, all we had to do was to simply pause and look up to be connected with something vast and beautiful and transcendent. I reached out and took my mothers hand and allowed myself to fully take in the blessing of it all.

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